Flight Papers has a quite thoughtful post on it. And a quite good blog, if you haven’t read it already.
Infidelity, cheating, whatever you call it, is incredibly common. I’ve cheated. I’ve been cheated on. I’ve been the person someone cheated with. I’m not going to go into details here (and judgmental comments on this WILL be deleted) but I think this is one of those very common cases where people feel the need to draw the line between “good” people (who don’t cheat) and “bad” people (who do, or who hook up with people who are taken).
So while I’m not saying I approve of John Edwards, or that he gets a pass (especially for running for president knowing this could very well come out…not terribly bright, that). But, well, glass houses and stones.
Read her post.
Radical relationship structures and complete honesty about what people want and why makes cheating obsolete and unnecessary.
You know, just saying.
well of course.
but as she pointed out in that post I linked, most people aren’t even aware that such things are possible.
what bothered me most about the whole thing wasn’t that he cheated, it happens… it was that he had the audacity to say something like, “she was in remission then!” as though the fact that she wasn’t battling cancer at the time made it okay to cheat on her… that, i thought, was disgusting.